So you’ve had some time since your break up to get your head on straight and put your life back together. Things are better now and you’re doing well for yourself, but you still have feelings for your ex and you’re wondering if they might be interested in rekindling the old flame with the new you. Well, here are some very good signs that your ex wants you back. If you’re seeing these, there’s a chance you might be able to give it another try, hopefully one that works this time.

Little things can be the biggest indication your ex is interested again. While these things may seem insignificant to you, your ex might be using them to gauge your responses and decide if they do want to try getting back together with you. These tests can vary, but they generally come in the form of short phone calls, text messages, or the occasional email just to see how you’re doing. An increase in calls coupled with a decrease in importance is a huge indicator. If your ex seems to be almost making up excuses to call you, whether it be a funny story they thought you’d like, or to check in on the kids even though they saw them just yesterday, they are probably signs your ex wants you back.

Stay cool. Your ex might be trying to find ways to push your buttons as part of this testing process. They’re trying to see how you’ll respond to stress, and more importantly, how you’ll respond to them during stress. It is imperative to demonstrate that you can keep a level head. Instead, work with them, let them change plans, don’t make a big deal about it. This shows that you are patient and calm, and conveys to them that you can be a rewarding partner in the bad times as well as the good.

Listen to your friends. After a break up, there are a few friends who stay in touch with both parties. If your ex is interested, they might mention it to one of these friends. The social grapevine can be a powerful tool for spreading and collecting information. If you run into her best friend and she tells you that your ex has been asking how you’ve been doing lately, this could be a sign that your ex wants you back.

In the end, there are likely many signs that your ex wants you back, if you read between the lines. If they don’t, don’t worry about it. You’re well on your way to a new life that they are not part of. There’s no point in wasting time pining over somebody who’s just not going to realize how awesome you are. But, if you’re interested, and you start noticing your ex sending you subtle hints, there’s a good chance you two might end up getting back together after all.